Archive | January, 2011

Beware of Snap Judgments

24 Jan

An Embarrassed ZebraA leopard went to see an optometrist because he thought he needed an eye exam. “Every time I look at my wife,” he worriedly told the optometrist, “I see spots before my eyes.”

“So, what’s to worry about,” replied the optometrist. “You’re a leopard, aren’t you?”

“Yes, but you see, my wife is a zebra.”

Sometimes we make snap judgments, don’t we? Just like that optometrist, before he had the whole picture.

Some people make snap judgments about people with disabilities. I saw a woman yell into the ear of a deaf man after watching him use sign language ~ as if that was going to help. We might assume that a person in a wheel chair is incapable and treat him or her like a child, when actually that person might be a brilliant intellectual, and clever in dealing with the struggles of life.

We might make snap judgments about people of another race or culture, or snap judgments about a friend’s intentions, or snap judgments about a spouse’s responses.

According to a study by US psychologist Alex Todorov, people respond intuitively to faces ~ so quickly sometimes that the reasoning of their minds “may not have time to influence the reaction.” We size people up at a glance and decide quickly whether a person has traits we feel are important.

Why the brain makes Continue reading 

Are You Kidding?

22 Jan

ManInJobInterviewReaching the end of a job interview, the Human Resources Person asked a young engineer who was fresh out of MIT, “What starting salary were you thinking about?”

The engineer said, “In the neighborhood of $125,000 a year, depending on the benefits package.”

The interviewer said, “Well, what would you say to a package of five weeks vacation, 14 paid holidays, full medical and dental, company matching retirement funds up to 50 percent of salary, and a company car leased every two years ~ say, a red Corvette?”

The engineer sat up straight and said, “Wow! Are you kidding?”

The interviewer replied, “Yeah, but you started it.” *

Talk about a build-up and a let-down.

Have you ever had a build-up like that, only to face disappointment later?

I (Dawn) read an article about History’s 10 Biggest Disappointments. I don’t agree with most of the findings, but Y2K was definitely a disappointment. (Not that I wanted it to be a major event, but after all that hype, Y2K sort of fizzled, don’t you agree?) People stockpiled guns and water for nothing.

I learned long ago that “It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man” (Psalm 118:8.) People let us down and disappoint us, because their “only human.” But there is no disappointment in Jesus. This one who never changes (Hebrews 13:5-8) can be counted on for salvation from now to eternity. He may not give us everything we desire, but He knows what is best and He will give us what we need.

We can trust God. Paul wrote, “whosoever believes in Him, shall not be disappointed” (Romans 9:32; 2 Timothy 1:12 Amplified)

One of my favorite songs as a college student included these words of security: “On Christ, the Solid Rock, I stand, All other ground is sinking sand.” Everything else in life can give way, but Christ is my rock (Matthew 7:24-27).

And to think that I have heaven, too! We cannot imagine what God has planned for us (1 Corinthians 2:9). When I’ve tried to imagine heaven ~ the beauty, the perfection, the nearness to Jesus ~ I almost want to say, “Are you kidding? Can it all be real?”

Unlike the job interviewer’s disappointing response, my Lord will simply bid me enter my eternal home, and taste of all that is good that He has prepared (John 14:6; Psalm 34:8).

* http://www.innocentenglish.com/best-funny-jokes/clean-funny-jokes/clean-jokes.html

Do You Have ‘Kate’ syndrome?

20 Jan

A man said, “I am in total control, but don’t tell my wife.”Control Freak Woman

I (Pam) am finishing up book: 52 Ways to Put a Smile on His Face (due out Valentine’s Day, 2012). Our dinner our table conversation with friends and family went to what I call “Kate Plus 8” syndrome, or “Who Died and Made You Boss?” (Funny that I originated that name of this syndrome ~ I guess, as a recovering control freak, I resemble and recognize the symptoms!)

I think that since Eve many women really struggle with being bossy, pushy, controlling, etc. We do it for much of why we saw Kate implode on TV; we feel overwhelmed by life, so we take charge to survive. Kate had a more legitimate excuse: eight kids under age three. (Most women don’t have that excuse.) :o )

When I commented that it is just way too easy to become a little “Hitler,” my husband Bill smiled and joked, “So, when  you get like that, or shall I say, if you ever do get that way, shall I just throw my arm up and say “Hiel” ?

Our son laughed.

And Bill added, “I guess not, if I want to keep that arm.”

Exactly.

Bill then asked (for the sake of our friends and family), “What does help women, if they find themselves being controlling?”

I said, “Actually, you are really good at helping when you simply say, ‘Pam, we are all on your team. We want you (or this) to succeed, so what can we do to help?”

I also added that it helps if we have some kind of secret code that is humorous to help a woman recognize when she is getting her inner dictator on. (Word of caution, this code word usually comes out of a big fight the first time! LOL) So, if you are at my home and someone mentions Cruella De Vil, no worries; it has become a term of endearment now.

Seriously, Bill made great headway when, Continue reading 

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