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Your Roots Are Showing

31 Jan

Hairdressers have a few things they want us to know!

Some time ago, Reader’s Digest on the Internet ran an article titled, “13+ Things Your Hairstylist Won’t Tell You” and the Huffington Post carried this one: “10 Things Your Hairdresser Won’t Tell HairstylistYou.” On their lists:

  • A trim is not “just a trim.”
  • Let me do my job.
  • We see women at their worst.
  • I’m not all things to all people.
  • Men will tell you things they won’t tell their wives.
  • We sometimes gossip about you behind your back.
  • Do not attempt hairstylist-speak.
  • You depend on us for way more than your hair.
  • I’m not a psychologist.
  • Your hairline may be receding, but our prices aren’t … except when we feel like negotiating.
  • Some people are just too large or their cheeks too round for the style they want.

But this is my favorite:  “I’m a beautician, not a magician!”

One hairdresser admitted, “Good hairdressers are trained to keep a poker face… whenever the stylist’s and client’s eyes meet in the mirror. You won’t know from their expression that they’ve just given you asymmetrical bangs or used a blonde dye that’s too brassy….”  That happened to me a long time ago with a stylist who colored my hair too red by accident. She just kept smiling while I felt like a cardinal.

“You’re going to love how this goes with your skin tone,” she said…. and she was right. I was ticked off and my face was getting redder by the minute!

CoveringRootsHair color is one area we women want near perfection, especially when it comes to hiding our “roots.”

Remember the Clairol slogan, “Only her hairdresser knows for sure”? When I think of all the things I’ve shared with my current hairstylist, I’m glad she’s a fellow believer! She’s heard me at my best and worst, but loves and accepts me anyway. And she’s an expert at “roots” control and cover-up.

I’ve found that the roots in my heart are harder to cover up.

Have you ever been coasting along in life and suddenly – Yikes! You’re embarrassed because someone saw or heard something in your life that wasn’t Christ-like at all. Ugh. Sin-roots. They pop up at the worst times if we don’t deal with them at … well, the roots. And every single day.

Hebrews 12:15 describes one root that can really get us into trouble: “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no ‘root of bitterness’ springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled.” We need to look diligently with careful awareness, on the watch for any resentment and hatefulness that will shoot forth and cause trouble. Why? This root isn’t benign; it’s nasty! It contaminates and defiles others.

A favorite Bible teacher of mine used to say, “from the bitter root springs a bitter fruit.” An RootsAndFruitevangelist says, “Don’t get bitter; get better.”

And how do we do that? Certainly not by covering up the root like we cover the roots of our hair. No, roots like these (bitterness, anger, pride, selfishness, sinful habits, etc.) must be changed. We need a fundamental change of heart as we encounter each “root” of sin. It simply won’t work to ignore, deny, or cover up an ugly sinful bent. The Lord sees them all, but He’s also the solution we seek for change.

I applied a “conditioner” to my hair that totally changed the texture of my hair, but it also seemed to lighten my hair as each strand reflected light. I need that kind of transforming spiritual “conditioner” in my life. When the Word of God changes me at my core, I am able to reflect His light.

We are to be “doers of the Word,” James says (James 1:22). As we not only read, study, memorize and meditate (“chew on”) on the scriptures, but also apply (act on) them, God uses His Word to transform our hearts and deal with those tell-tale “roots.” His desire is to perfect (complete) us and equip us for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16-17), but we must recognize each sin, forsake it, and begin to obey God. When we are “rooted and grounded” in the Word, Christ, and God’s love (Ephesians 3:17; Colossians 2:6-7), our “fruit” will honor the Lord and bless others.

What kind of fruit is sprouting from the roots in your life?

Wearing Clean Clothes?

2 Sep

While waiting for my husband to try on some clothes at Macy’s the other day, I remembered a joke someone told me:

A man sat in the “husband chairs” as his wife tried on clothes in a fancy store.

After almost an hour of watching his wife parade outfit after outfit for his “approval,” the poor man had definitely had it!

So the next time his wife came out of the changing room, he exclaimed, “Wow, Babe. That’s a knockout! Why don’t you buy that one?”

His wife frowned. “Oh, right,” she said, “This is what I was wearing when we CAME IN!”  

LOL … and hold that thought.

Maybe I’m a little strange, but I had a spiritual revelation when I heard that joke.

I heard this little voice ask me, “Are you wearing what you had on when you came in?”

Let me explain.

I thought about the day I came to Christ ~ that wonderful garment of holiness I received when I became a Christ-follower. I remember how clean and pure I felt when I first gave my life to Him.

But I get my spiritual “clothes” so soiled sometimes. Don’t you? That’s why the writer of Hebrews urges us to “Make every effort… to be holy” (Hebrews 12:14). It takes effort!  Yes, it’s true that when we confess our sins (1 John 1:9), we are clean through the blood of the Lamb ~ but the scriptures tell us some things to “put off” and other things to “put on” (Ephesians 4:22-24). When we do, our spiritual garments stay fresh and clean.

The apostle Paul uses the words “put off” to illustrate that we need to “divest” ourselves of some things … to strip them off just as we would some dirty clothes. We need to do this daily, because the corruption in the world tends to cling to us.

What kinds of things do we “put off”? We put off anything that belongs to the corrupted old self. Things that we repent over and leave behind. Various lusts within and influences without make our spiritual garments spotty and smelly!

I read recently that harmful bacteria can linger on clothes we think are clean. In the same way, we may think we are “clean” before the Lord … but it’s good to ask Him if there is “something else” lingering in our lives ~ a “hint” of the unclean (see Ephesians 5:3), or perhaps something we need to see from God’s  perspective.

After we “put off” the unclean things, there are things that we “put on”… things that relate to the new self. It’s not a matter of us trying to “launder” our soiled clothes, but rather to strip them off and allow the Lord to give us fresh, pure garments as He transforms us from within. We are a new creation in Christ … created for true righteousness and holiness. And God’s Word lists many ways that we can put on the pure character of Christ. 

This is not an exhaustive list* by any means, but simply some suggestions for consideration:

Can you imagine how exciting and effective your life would be if you Put Off and Put On all of those things? Wow!

The important thing is that we realize we have the opportunity every day to wear clean spiritual garments, just as when we first came to Christ.

His grace, mercy and forgiveness are powerful, and our Father God is working to transform us every day into the image of Christ. And ONE DAY, we will receive a spotless garment ~ “fine linen, white and clean” (Revelation 19:14) for all eternity! Praise God!

* There are many such lists on the internet… here is one.

Embracing ‘Gain’ and “Got”

22 Jan

Good humor can help to put us in a cheerful mood ~ especially when there is an unexpected punchline. Ponder these humorous sayings:

  • He who laughs last … thinks slowest.
  • When everything’s coming your way … you’re in the wrong lane and going the wrong way!
  • For every action, there is an equal and opposite … criticism.
  • Love is blind … but marriage is a real eye-opener.
  • A day without sunshine is like … night.
  • Save the whales … collect the whole set.
  • Half the people you know … are below average.
  • If at first you don’t succeed … destroy all evidence that you tried.

Speaking of unexpected, the new Special K cereal dieting commercial grabbed my attention, because it is so contrary to the norm. The ad shows women stepping on scales to begin a dieting challenge, only to be met with motivating words, not incriminating numbers.

“What if we stopped focusing on what we want to lose and started focusing on what we want to gain?” the commercial asks.

I’m not going to debate whether the Special K challenge is a good idea or not ~ whether the diet plan is good nutrition and with sufficient calories ~ but I have to admit that their catchy question made me evaluate my attitudes.

So much of my life I focused on the negative … trying not to be bad, trying not to fail, trying not to disappoint, etc. A few years ago, I turned that all around by making some proactive, intentional choices to embrace what is good, life-building, and healthy. That’s what the Lord intended for us, I think. A positive, biblical focus.

Don’t get me wrong.

There certainly must be times to examine our hearts for sin (Lamentations 3:40) and to confess sin (1 John 1:9), and there is the continual “putting off” of  some sinful attitudes and behaviors as we “put on” the opposite righteous attitudes and behaviors (Ephesians4:22-24).

But does our Father in heaven want us to get bogged down in incriminating thoughts, focusing on how bad we are ~ and the truth is, there is no good thing within us without Christ (Romans 7:18; Galatians 5:17) ~ or does He want us to rise up in victory and embrace who we are in Christ and our eternal gain in Him?

A few years ago, when I began to concentrate on God’s grace and goodness in redeeming me, I was far more motivated to live for Him in humble gratitude than when I was forever digging about in my heart for some hidden sin.

I decided to ask my loving Father to reveal my heart in His own time and way (Proverbs 16:2; Psalm 26:2-3). He has been faithful to do that. Sometimes there are periodic times of heart-searching in a “revival week” experience, but I’ve found that when I stay in the Word and open to God ~ asking the Holy Spirit to teach me ~ God uses the Word of God and the everyday experiences of life to rub off the rough, sinful, foolish edges of my life.

The truth is, the Special K ad actually stops short.

Rather than even focusing on what I want to gain, how much better to consider what I’ve already got ~ how blessed I already am ~ because of my relationship with God in Christ.

Rather than focusing on my fear, I focus on courage and the strength He gives. Rather than focusing on my tendency to stress out and worry, I focus on the Sovereign God who is always in control. Rather than focus on what I believe I don’t have (which leads to a spirit of discontent), I focus on the abundant life God has promised to me.

How about you? Are you focusing on what you want to gain in life… or better yet, what you’ve already got?

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