Phyllis Diller’s self-deprecating humor (when she kept it clean) often made me (Dawn) laugh. She once said, “My photographs don’t do me justice ~ they just look like me.” I’ve used that line myself on occasion.
Discussing the topic of “Plastic Surgery, Botox, and Other Modern Marvels,” Pellicane began by sharing some of Diller’s humor, noting that the comedian was never one to conceal her facelifts.
“Her one liners about plastic surgery brought her fame and endeared her to women and plastic surgeons alike,” Arlene said.
“Punch lines like:
- The only parts left of my original body are my elbows.
- My Playtex Living bra died … of starvation.
- I never made Who’s Who, but I’m featured in What’s That?” (1)
I (Dawn) have found that some women have unrealistic expectations about plastic surgery and other external “miracle” procedures to procure “beauty.” Those who believe all the advertising and hype about beauty fail to understand that physical beauty won’t last, but true inner beauty is both attractive and eternal.
Arlene doesn’t condemn botox or other procedures, but she does offer words of wisdom.
“Having cosmetic surgery will change your appearance, but it won’t change your life,” she said. “Friend, if you’re not enough without plastic surgery, you’ll never be enough with it. You were lovingly and beautifully created by God. If you feel insecure about your appearance, the true transformation of beauty will first happen in your mind and heart, not on the surgery table.” (2)
I am tempted to stop right there. Arlene said it all. We are awed by women with true, inner beauty. Refined by their Creator and Heavenly Father, joy radiates from their lives.
I’m just going to add some scriptures to encourage you, if you struggle with your appearance. (All are in the English Standard Version.)
- …For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7b)
- I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. (Psalm 139:14)
- Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
- So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. (2 Corinthians 4:16)
- Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. (1 Peter 3:3-4)
Arlene concludes her book with these words, “Looking and feeling younger is about accepting your appearance, embracing your God-given age, and doing your best to improve your assets. Hear the voice of your heavenly Father as He looks at you, His daughter, and proclaims, ‘Good.’ … You are a luminous work in progress.”
Luminous. I like that.
We are told to let our “light” shine so others will glorify the Father in heaven (Matthew 5:16). So, shine, Friend … you are BEAUTIFUL!
(1) Arlene Pellicane, 31 Days to a Younger You: No surgery, No Diets, No Kidding (Harvest House Publishers, 2010), p. 97
(2) ibid, p. 98