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Four Thanksgiving Lessons

18 Nov

As was their tradition, before they ate their holiday meal, Dad read the story of Thanksgiving and how the Indians and the Pilgrims sat down together for a meal. After the story, little Teddy climbed up into his father’s lap.

“Daddy,” Teddy said, “did you know that if we were Indians, you would be a brave and Mom would be a squawk?”

“Son, that is the best description of your mother I have ever heard,” his daddy replied … as he ducked.

As I think about Thanksgiving, and how everyone seems to want the turkey leg, I’m amazed that no one wants to eat a flamingo for Thanksgiving… have you seen those long legs? (Granted, not much meat.)

The story of the first Thanksgiving is controversial, depending on who you talk to and what books you read. Squanto and the Indians of the Wampanoag tribe helped the Pilgrims survive when they were poor and hungry, many dying from disease; and some believe their kindness was not appreciated and repaid because the Indians were “heathens.” 

As I think about this Thanksgiving, I am taking some lessons from my research on this holiday:

Lesson 1 - God takes note not only of what we have, but what we share. We all have a choice about who we will help and encourage. Thanksgiving is a time to examine our hearts, to look at our abundance, and ask God what He wants us to offer to others.

Lesson 2 – We need to remember those who have shared of their time and resources with us, and be careful to express our gratitude. Thanksgiving is a wonderful time to tell people why we are thankful for them and what they have done ~ buy a box of thank you notes and get writing!

Lesson 3 – We need to be sure that we see the kindnesses we have received from others outside our faith. Our response is noted. We need to be sure we respond as Christ would ~ offering gratitude and love. (Remember the story of The Good Samaritan? It was the unlikely man who offered help!) If we ever hope to have an audience to share the love of God with those who do not know Him, we need to be sure we are practicing basic good manners and kindness. We should always do the honorable thing.

Lesson 4 - We need to focus on the Blesser ~ God Himself ~ not only the many blessings He gives.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

 

 

Pilgrim-style Gratitude (Not What You May Think)

21 Nov

Thanksgiving Day was approaching, and the family received a Thanksgiving card with a painting of a Pilgrim Pilgrims_Going2Churchfamily on their way to church.

Grandma showed the card to her small grandchildren, observing, “The Pilgrim children liked to go to church with their mothers and fathers.”

“Oh, yeah?” her young grandson replied. “So, why is their dad carrying that rifle?” (1)

The story of the American Pilgrims is a lesson in survival and gratitude. After the hardships and horrors they endured, including terrible grief and suffering, the Pilgrims who survived turned to God and gave thanks with a three-day celebration! It was the sacrifice of joy that David talked about in Psalm 27:5-6 ~ kept safe and then sacrificing with “shouts of joy.”

Rev. Scott W. Alexander wrote a bit about that first Thanksgiving celebration, but he also took time to detail some of the tough things our Pilgrim forebears had to deal with in 1621 in their search for religious freedom. (2) There was a horrible winter ~ every family touched by disease and death. Imagine the grief. As they sat at their celebration table with their Indian neighbors, most of them were probably weak and thin from the ravages of that winter.

Alexander points out, “It is spiritually important that we not romanticize that first American thanksgiving as some carefree festival of reckless joy … It’s a miracle of the heart that those pilgrims could even think of giving thanks to God, or celebrating life’s bounty …

“It seems to me that what makes the real Thanksgiving story so remarkable,” Alexander wrote, “is not the joy which the Pilgrims and Indians shared, but rather that their painful backdrop of grief was not allowed to block out their celebration … Somehow they were able to choose gratitude over bitterness, generosity over greed, thanksgiving over self-pity.”

Have you known modern-day pilgrims like that ~ brave souls who refuse to let life’s tough circumstances thwart their sense of purpose or rob them of joy?

I have. I’ve observed:

  • A pastor with lymphoma who chose to trust God and express gratitude for life
  • A woman waiting for new lungs, choosing to express praise to God during the wait
  • A couple experiencing job loss, and choosing to seek God in the midst of that pain
  • A mother with a rebellious daughter, choosing to see her through God’s eyes

Alexander pointed to the familiar story of Victor Frankl, a Jew who survived Auschwitz, as an example of the kind of choices that lift us beyond tough circumstances.

Frankl wrote,

“Everything can be taken from [us] but one thing: the last of the human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. And there were [in Auschwitz] always choices to make. Every day, every hour, offered the opportunity to make a decision, a decision which determined whether you would or would not submit to those powers which threatened to rob you of your very self, your inner freedom ….  It is this spiritual freedom which cannot be taken away, that makes life meaningful and purposeful.”

As Christians, gratitude at Thanksgiving is to be in this context, but even more. Life may pummel us with many blows, but we who know eternal life in Jesus have a different perspective. In Christ, there is joy, beauty, hope, and satisfaction that the world cannot understand, because in Him, God redeems all things ~ we are truly “made alive” in Him (Ephesians 2:1-10) and have so much to celebrate with joy (Psalm 126:3).

Leadership specialist Michael Hyatt carries a rock with him, in his pocket, to remind him to be grateful for whatever is happening in his life. Whenever his hand touches the “gratitude rock,” he thanks God for his immediate circumstances ~ whether good or bad. It’s a wonderful idea.  Or perhaps we can put a special object that represents gratitude where we will see it every day, for the same purpose. We need to be more deliberate in our words and responses.

So no matter what you are facing today, Friend, you can still choose gratitude. You are a blessed survivor in Christ!

(1) “Pilgrim Church,” from Cybersalt Digest, Issue #3493, 11/24/10

(2) Sermon by Rev. Scott W. Alexander, “The Pilgrims in Our Lives,” http://www.bigskyuu.org/sermons/pilgrimsinourlives.pdf

The Power of a Positive Attitude

25 Aug

A boy, playing baseball alone, was heard to say, “I’m the greatest hitter in the world!”Little Boy Swinging Bat in Yard

He tossed the ball into the air, swung, and missed. “Strike one.”

Undaunted, he picked up the ball, threw it into the air, and said to himself, “I’m the greatest baseball hitter ever,” and he swung at the ball again. Again, he missed. “Strike two!”

He paused a moment to examine his bat and ball carefully. Then a third time he threw the all into the air. “I’m the greatest hitter who ever lived,” he said. He swung the bat hard again, missing a third time.

He cried out, “Wow! Strike three ~ what a pitcher! I’m the greatest pitcher in the world!” (1)

Don’t you love that little boy’s attitude? He consciously choose to look on the bright, positive side of life, and his experience did not disappoint!

It’s easy to have a good attitude when our relationships are good, everything in our house is in working order, our health is good, our work is manageable, and our days are filled with blessings.

The challenge comes when all of these things fall apart.

Maybe our husband is grumpy, our children are uncooperative, or a co-worker is moody. Maybe our computer, car, and appliances conspire against us and act up or break all in the same week. Perhaps we’re suddenly sick, or on overload with too many tasks and not enough time. Maybe life just seems dull.

It’s harder to be positive when life doesn’t meet our expectations, isn’t it?

That’s when the intentional choice to be positive makes such a difference. A positive attitude seems to empower and energize us ~ it helps us cope. Winston Churchill said, “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference!” (2)

I (Dawn) am not talking about a Pollyanna attitude ~ although Pollyanna made some wonderful choices with her “Glad Game.”  But I’m talking about a positive attitude that is based in two things:  choosing joy as a child of a loving Father God (Can you hear Pam saying, “Choosin’ Joy!”?), and also choosing gratitude.

In other words, when we pause to think about who we are in Christ, and the many blessings that we have because we are related to Him, we can move forward no matter our circumstances.

Positive Attitude boy - Thumbs Up!A positive attitude might show up in a number of ways:  optimism, motivation, being inspired, determination, creative thinking, seeing problems as blessings, being a problem-solver, seeing opportunities, or anticipating success.

[Note:  In our book, Pam and I suggested 10 Things to do when you don't feel like "LOL-ing." If you really struggle with a positive attitude, try some of these things, and see if taking some practical, positive action will help you develop some positive attitudes.]

Sometimes our circumstances don’t change for a long time … or maybe never this side of heaven; yet we can choose to respond with truth-based confidence in God’s loving care for us. It’s all a matter of our perspective. God is our hope!

We can decide not to let circumstances ruin our lives, knowing that God redeems every situation for good (Romans 8:28-29). Our lives will grow stronger as we depend on the Lord to change us from the inside while we cooperate with that transformation by pursuing godly, positive attitudes and actions on the outside.

As believers, we give God our sin in a spirit of repentance, and He gives us the righteousness of Christ (2 Corinthians 5:21); and that incredible exchange is the source of our deepest joy and deepest desire to live for God.

Remember that little boy … the would-be-hitter-turned “pitcher”? His attitude (and creative thinking) made a big difference in his day. A positive attitude is always powerful, and it’s made up of many choices each day.

(1) Michael Hodgin, 1001 Humorous Illustrations for Public Speakers  (Zondervan Publishing House, 1994), Illustration #77, p. 40

(2) http://thinkexist.com/quotation/attitude_is_a_little_thing_that_makes_a_big/219106.html

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