Passion or Pain?

10 Jan

Young Son: Is it true, Dad, that in some parts of Africa a man doesn’t know his wife until he marries her?
Dad: That happens in every country, son.

Silouette of Married CoupleOkay, those of you who know me (Pam) well will laugh at this.

Bill and I had some “intense fellowship” and had to work out an issue. We hugged and made up and all that good “Red Hot Monogamy” stuff we write about. Later I said, “Being married to me is a little like cooking with Tequila in a hot pan. The food can taste really great, but it can also cause a flash fire and you might feel the heat—or get burned.”

Passion is a little like dynamite, it can do some great good, like clearing a path, or creating a tunnel in a mountain; but great destruction or extreme pain is also possible if the dynamite is not handled well or wisely.

A quote comes to mind when I think of passion and intensity. It was made by Spiderman’s uncle: “With great power comes great responsibility.” Passion isn’t the problem; it is all how we handle it.

So, are there any other “red hot mama’s” out there? Let’s commit to use our passion for good. We can keep the sizzle and spice “in the pan” with a couple of key passion principles:

1. Never say something that, if your mate was hit by a truck, you’d regret.

2. Don’t be the truck that hit him!

To sum it up:

  • Passion with proper parameters produces positive power
  • Rage, regardless of restraint, returns ruin.

The Proverbs give us a couple of first-rate goals in handling our passionate words:

Pleasant words are a honeycomb, dweet to the soul and healing to the bones. (Proverbs 16:24)

[She] who restrains [her] words has knowledge, and [she] who has a cool spirit is a [woman] of understanding. (Proverbs 17:27)

I recommend our book Red Hot Monogamy as a better way to channel that passion!

Keep it sizzling ~ in a good way!


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