Not for Circulation

27 Feb

Ruch E. Chodrow wrote to Reader’s Digest, I met my husband while I was working in a science library. He came in every week to read the latest journals and eventually decided to take Rubber Stamp & Ink Padout the librarian instead of the books.

“After a year and a half of dating, he showed up at the library and started rummaging through my desk. I asked what he was looking for, but he didn’t answer. Finally he unearthed one of the rubber stamps I used to identify reference books.

“’Since I couldn’t find the right engagement ring,’ he said, ‘this will have to do,and he firmly stamped my hand. Across my knuckles, in capital letters, it read ‘NOT FOR CIRCULATION.’” *

Isn’t that a great thought? Once we are wed, we are out of circulation, for sure. But this fellow was making it clear that engagement was a done deal in his book!

Some great points are made at gotquestions.org concerning engagement. Old Testament betrothal was similar to what we call engagement, except that many couples today don’t honor the sanctity and seriousness of engagement. The key issue is for Christians not to knowingly join together with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-15).

But beyond engagement, these days, love and marriage don’t necessarily go together for many couples. They skip engagement for cohabitation, or for other unbiblical relationships.

I (Dawn) read on a site about dating [which I do NOT recommend], “The truth about love is that there is no truth about love. There are only subjective ideas as to what marriage should be based on.” **

Sadly, that’s what many in the younger generation believe, because they have tossed out the absolutes of scripture. But God gives some clear “ideas as to what marriage should be based on” and how it is to function:

  • Marriage is God’s design (Genesis 2: 18-24). He is the author of marriage.
  • Marriage is good and honorable, and the marriage bed is to be kept pure (Hebrews 13:4).
  • The marriage commitment includes love and respect (Ephesians 5:22-28, 33).
  • Marriage is for keeps (Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:7-9). Marriage is “until death do us part” (Romans 7:2-3)
  • Marriage is exclusive (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5). Married couples are to leave (their parents) and cleave (to each other).
  • Marriage is monogamous. Polygamy came about after Genesis 2, (Genesis 4:19) and was not part of God’s original design of one woman for one man.
  • In marriage, man and woman have distinct roles, complementing each other, and creating a family (Ephesians 5:22-6:4). Marriage doesn’t work if there are two “heads” in the relationship.
  • In marriage, God made woman for man, not the other way around (1 Corinthians 11:8-9).
  • The purpose of marriage is to avoid fornication (1 Corinthians 7:2), to produce and rear children (Genesis 1:28), and to reflect the relationship between Christ and His bride, the Church (Ephesians 5:24-25).
  • But pleasure in marriage is also God’s design. Marital romance is a good thing ( Song of Solomon 4:9-10) ~ and wise couples work to keep their marriage exciting so they won’t be tempted to sin.

I read a blog post recently that suggested Facebook is killing the modern marriage because of the flirting that sometimes goes on in posts. Perhaps married couples are forgetting that they are “out of circulation.”

Marriage is under threat from so many sources these days, and attacks are often subtle. May God help married couples be careful to guard their hearts concerning the commitment of marriage. And for those who desire marriage, be sure you understand what God expects.

Marriage is a good thing. Let’s keep it good.

Note: Bill and Pam Farrel have MANY books and resources that will help you keep your marriage good, healthy, positive, growing, and fun!

* http://www.rd.com/family/11-funny-valentines-day-jokes/

** http://maximdating.com/does-love-lead-to-marriage/ [Site not recommended]

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One Response to “Not for Circulation”

  1. Charlotte February 27, 2011 at 5:18 pm #

    I was reminded two days ago that we are the bride of Christ…we are betrothed to Him and that also means ‘not in circulation’. With the marriage feast appearing to be imminent, we need to focus on preparing ourselves to be ready to meet our lover. There are so few women today who have experienced the incredible blessing of an earthly partner who loved unconditionally and completely, true examples of God’s love. I pray that men and women who understand this kind of love will freely and boldly share their stories to help others gain a better focus in preparing to meet our eternal lover.

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