On Pinterest I read some funny descriptions of “Bad Boys.” They’re supposedly guys who:
- turn right when their GPS says turn left.
- don’t look both ways when they cross the street.
- go to bed two minutes past their regular bedtime.
- eject their USB without “safely removing.”
- press the handicapped button that opens doors … and they’re not handicapped.
Now these are not real bad boys. Real bad boys, my grandpa said, “Drink and chew and go with girls who do.”
I know many in the general culture would disagree with me, but:
I believe women want a courageous, adventurous, wise and visionary man with integrity and a kind, generous heart—a good (even godly) man—not a wicked one.
A possible exception to this is the woman who is foolish, undiscerning or wicked herself!
Just watch a woman who marries a “bad boy.” In time, she’ll try to reform him!
We don’t have to go to the culture to find bad boys. There are plenty of bad boys in the Bible too.
To name only a few: Cain – the first murderer (Genesis 4:1-8); Korah and his company and their sinful rebellion (Numbers 16); Abimelech‘s conspiracy and mass murder (Judges 9:1-5); and King Herod (Mark 6:14-28).
Here are descriptions of typical bad boys:
Psalm 1:1-4 – wicked, sinning, mocking God and godly people
Psalm 26:4-5 – liars, hypocrites, evildoers
Proverbs 16:29 – violent
Proverb s 22:24-25 – angry, wrathful
Proverbs 28:7 – a glutton
1 Corinthians 5:11 – sexually immoral, greedy, idolatrous, a reviler, drunkard, swindler
2 Timothy 3:1-5 – Last Days traits: “But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.”
Women, do yourself a favor. Avoid the “bad boys” like the plague.
They will only bring you down.
And guys, I’d encourage you to avoid the “bad girls,” no matter how pretty and seductive they seem. (Read: Proverbs 9:13, 5:6, 7:11, 21:9, 19 for some characteristics of the “bad girl.”) Proverbs 6:27 is especially telling regarding a relationship with an immoral woman – “Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?”
Christians, we need wisdom in choosing our companions. Remember: the fear of the Lord (an understanding of who He is and what He expects) is the beginning of wisdom (Proverbs 9:10).
Stop equating “bad boy” and “bad girl” with something desirable. Stop seeing “good” as boring and a waste of time. That’s the enemy’s lie!
Instead, understand the consequences of your choices and surround yourself with people who have character, people who love and cherish life and embrace life-building goals.
Who are your “companions” in life? Are they bringing you down or building you up?
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