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Chin Hairs, Cankles and Loving People

5 Mar

There’s just something funny about chin hairs … on women. Ok, maybe not so funny.

I read these comments about chin hairs this week:ChinHair_LOLwithGod_graphicFreedigitalPhotos

  • “Some days my biggest accomplishment is removing that annoying chin hair.”
  • “True friends don’t just tell you about your chin hair. They’ve already dug out the tweezers from their purse.”
  • “I refuse to call them chin hairs. We shall call them stray eyebrows.”
  • “Make me a promise. If I end up in a coma, will you come to the hospital and pluck my chin hair?”

Chin hairs are a fact of life for the “elder set,” as are cankles (chubby ankles) and a whole assortment of other strange and wonderful body changes.

I have to admit, for some time assessing the obvious changes in my own body made me want to hide away. In fact, at one point as a speaker to women, I found myself dreading the opportunities.

“They’ll be staring at my ankles,” I thought, and I chose to wear long pants on stage.

Before I left for a luncheon engagement, I used a searchlight on my chin. “What if I miss a stray hair,” I said. “Horrors! That’s all the ladies at the table will see!

The devil doesn’t care what he uses to discourage us from ministry. Even chin hairs.

Realizing my responses were silly, I decided not to give the enemy an inch.

“Satan, I’m going to this event, and I’m going to speak, and I don’t care if I do have chin hairs and cankles. I’m going to go … and I’m going to love on people!”

Yes, we want to look our best, but if we’re not careful, we’ll miss out on God’s work in people’s lives because we’re too busy examining all the reasons we’re “inadequate” or “weird.”

The truth is, most people don’t care what you look like. They care about whether you know how to love … whether you speak truth … whether you live an authentic life.

Things that matter.

So no, I’m not like the slim speaker with the dazzling white teeth, trim waist, long eyelashes and very long legs. But I am uniquely crafted by the Creator to reach and touch the people He has ordained me to minister to and serve. I have to quit believing the enemy’s lies and embrace God’s truth.

The scriptures speak of the foolishness of comparisons.

“Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves. But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding (2 Corinthians 10:12, ESV).

Comparisons aren’t anything new:

  • Rachel and Leah had a real comparison fiasco going on! (Genesis 29:17; 30:1).
  • Joseph’s brothers were envious of him to the point of wishing him dead (Acts 7:9).
  • Saul was jealous, comparing himself to the beloved David (1 Samuel 18:8-9).
  • And in the New Testament, Jesus’ disciples struggled with comparisons, wondering who would be greatest in the Kingdom (Matthew 18:1-4; 20:20-28; Luke 9:46-48), and who would be called to suffer  or spared in their near future (John 21:20-23).

God simply asks us to do our personal best and not worry about what others do. Paul wrote: “Let everyone be sure to do his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work done well and won’t need to compare himself with someone else” (Galatians 6:4, Living Bible).

There are a number of negative attitudes behind comparisons.

Envy doesn’t look attractive on anyone, and discontent can disfigure the prettiest face.

The devil loves it when we struggle with the pride of comparisons, thinking wrongly about ourselves (Romans 12:3). God created us the way He wanted us to be, and all we have is from Him. We have no right to puff up with pride (1 Corinthians 4:7). Instead, we need to honor and be good stewards of the body God gave us … to bring HIM glory.

Pleasing the Lord is what matters. We will give account to Him alone, and we have no reason to glory outside of Him (Romans 14:12; 1 Corinthians 4:5; 2 Corinthians 10:17-18). He gives us good gifts, spiritual gifts for ministry (1 Corinthians 12:4-18) and we need to be grateful.

Let’s spend more time loving and serving people; and if we have to compare, let’s spend our time comparing our lives to Jesus (Hebrews 12:2)—not comparing chin hairs and cankles.

Where do you tend to compare yourself to others? Can you instead thank God for who you are and all that you have?


Graphic adapted, imagerymajestic at


In the Eye of the Beholder

26 Jun

Irving was just coming out of anesthesia after a series of tests in the hospital, and his wife, Sarah was sitting at his bedside.

His eyes fluttered open and he murmured, “You’re beautiful!”

Flattered, Sarah continued her vigil while Irving drifted back to sleep. Later, he woke up and said, “You’re cute.”

“What happened to ‘beautiful’?” Sarah asked.

“I guess the drugs must be wearing off, ” he replied. * LOL!

“Beauty,” it’s said, “is in the eye of the beholder.”

Sometimes we don’t recognize true beauty, especially our own. Our vision of ourselves is subjective and limited. We measure ourselves against model-like standards of “perfection.” We define beauty in such narrow terms. Who is to say a rose is more beautiful than a daisy? How can we compare a perfect day at the beach with a perfect day in the mountains? God’s creations are varied and unique, and to appreciate each one is to appreciate the Creator Himself.

One of the most beautiful women I ever met was partially blind and “ordinary-looking,” yet she glowed with an inner strength I desired as a young girl. I couldn’t get enough of sitting by her side, capturing her winsomeness and joy and learning from her vast store of wisdom.

The older I get, the more I understand that, though we are all “wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:12-14), no human is completely  beautiful this side of heaven. We all sin, and we are in varying stages of decay (slowly falling apart) until the day we die. In other words, we are all marred images until God transforms us (2 Corinthians 3:18). I think we’ll be surprised, maybe even shocked, by our beauty in Christ in heaven.

All true, lasting beauty comes from God. “Beauty is fleeting,” the scriptures say, “but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30).  Beauty includes character, gifts, purpose, faith and so much more than mere appearance.

The Christian knows there is more. When the Father sees the believer, He sees His Son (Colossians 3:3-4; Romans 8:1; 1 Peter 1:3; Ephesians 2:13) –  and Jesus is beautiful. In Christ, Father God declares us chosen and special (1 Peter 2:9), loved (1 John 3:1), blessed (Ephesians 1:3), free (John 8:36) and more!

The Christian’s desire is to reflect Christ both now and in eternity, and this desire will be answered “in the eye of the beholder.”

We will behold Christ and we will be changed!

The Word of God says, “Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is” (1 John 3:2). In that day, we we will be perfect and beautiful – just as the Creator intended.

Do you know your beauty in Christ? (If not, here is a perfect “mirror” for you to behold yourself.)

* From, “Surgical Beauty.”

– Dawn

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