Pam and her husband Bill wrote, in Marriage in the Whirlwind:
I had a dream the other night that I was approaching the gates of heaven. I noticed that there were TWO GATES to choose from.
Over the one at the left was a sign that said, “Men who have made their own decisions.”
Over the one at the right, “Men who have been hen-pecked.”
In front of the right gate waited a line of men that stretched as far as I could see! In front of the left gate stood my friend John, all alone.
In amazement, I went up to John and said, “This is incredible. There is a huge line of henpecked men, and over here I find you standing all by yourself. Why are you standing here?”
John gave me a quizzical look and said, “I don’t know. My wife told me to stand here.” (1)
[Note: Actually, henpecked husbands are no laughing matter. Wives, we need to love and respect our husbands. But that humor makes a point… ]
No matter who you are, someone tells you what to do. Listening to and submitting to authority is not just a “women’s issue,” as so many think in the church. It’s a people issue.
Think about it.
- The government has a good deal of input for sure.
- If we work outside the home, our boss tells us what to do.
- If we are wives living in the model of biblical womanhood, we submit to our husbands’ leadership ~ and though he can wisely listen to our counsel ~ ultimately, he makes the decisions. [Men are to listen to God as they lead women … they are to model listening and obedience.]
- Authorities in our lives like the local police and highway patrol can tell us what to do when we travel in our cars, and judges can tell us what to do in court.
- When we go to church, we listen to the pastor and other church leaders, expounding on the Word and will of God, and telling us what to do in order to live in righteousness and power.
No matter how independent we think we are, someone, somewhere, has the job of telling us what to do. It’s a fact of life.
And we can have one or two responses.
We can allow their words to grind in our spirit and make us edgy, maybe even rebellious. We can resist and maybe even get angry: “Who are they to tell me what to do?”
Or we can keep our spirits soft and our hearts teachable. We can listen, consider, and stay humble. We can ask God for His truth in others’ words. We might say, “Help me hear with my heart, Lord, and understand Your voice behind theirs.”
I’ve had both responses in life ~ sometimes to the same person. It all depends on the condition of my heart at the moment. For example, sometimes I listen to my husband’s counsel, Continue reading