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Got Post-Christmas Blahs?

26 Dec

There’s a funny “Day after Christmas” poem that might describe many homes in America:

‘Twas the day after Christmas, and all through the house,
Every creature was hurting — even the mouse.
The toys were all broken, their batteries dead;
Santa passed out, with some ice on his head.

Wrapping and ribbons just covered the floor, while
Upstairs the family continued to snore.
And I in my T-shirt, new Reeboks and jeans,
Went into the kitchen and started to clean.

When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from the sink to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the curtains, and threw up the sash.
When what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a little white truck, with an over-sized mirror.
The driver was smiling, so lively and grand;
The patch on his jacket said “U.S. POSTMAN.”

With a handful of bills, he grinned like a fox.
Then quickly he stuffed them into our mailbox.
Bill after bill, after bill, they still came.
Whistling and shouting he called them by name:

“Now Dillard’s, now Broadway’s, now Penny’s and Sears;
Here’s Levitz’ and Target’s and Mervyn’s ~ all here!!
To the tip or your limit, every store, every mall,
Now chargeaway-chargeaway-chargeaway all!”

He whooped and he whistled as he finished his work.
He filled up the box, and then turned with a jerk.
He sprang to his truck and he drove down the road,
Driving much faster with just half a load.

Then I heard him exclaim with great holiday cheer,
“Enjoy what you got … YOU’LL BE PAYING ALL YEAR!” (1)

And then there are all the “returns” after Christmas.

Brian Bill dealt with this by quoting a poem by Dave Veerman called “Many Happy Returns” ~

“‘Twas the day after Christmas, And all through the room
Strewn wrappings were crying For use of a broom

The children were scattered, The friends’ gifts exploring,
Since now most of theirs Were broken or boring.

All tummies were stuffed From the fabulous feast;
Leftovers would serve For one month at least.

And mama and papa Were countryside ranging,
Those unwanted gifts Returned or exchanging.

Yes, Christmas is past With its bustle and noise,
Sales and carols, Santas and toys.

Decorations are packed, The Yule tree’s discarded.
The holiday’s over, Just as we got started….” (2)

It’s so true … if we’re not careful … all the post-Christmas bills and returns will get us down (unless, of course, we paid for it all with cash and chose perfect gifts).

Sometimes, as hard as we try, Christmas is disappointing. It’s like the child who opened all his gifts and then declared, “Is that all there is?” Or maybe there are some relationship problems. Or maybe there is so much activity and you run on adrenaline … and then you crash.  (I know it’s only the day after Christmas… it might take a bit to catch up with you!)

Here’s how I’ve always dealt with post-Christmas blues Continue reading

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More than a ‘Mood Ring’ (Part 2)

23 Mar

In Fantastic After 40, Pam Farrel describes the domino effect of allowing emotions to control our lives ~ soon our emotions run rampant!

Question: How many women with PMS does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

Answer: One. One! And do you know why it only takes one? Because no one else in this house even Lightbulb_smashedknow how to change a lightbulb. They don’t even know the bulb is burned out. They would sit in this house in the dark for three days before they figured it out. And once they figured it out, they wouldn’t be able to find the lightbulbs despite the fact that they’ve been in the same cupboard for the past 17 years. But if they did, by some miracle, find the lighbulbs, two days later the chair they dragged from two rooms over to stand on to change the stupid lightbulb would still be in the same spot! And underneath it would be the crumpled wrapper the stupid lightbulbs came in. Why? Because no one in this house ever carries out the garbage! It’s a wonder we haven’t all suffocated from the piles of garbage that are 12-feet deep throughout the entire house. The house! The house! It would take an army to clean this house … *

(Sounds like there’s a wee bit of anger mixed in with that moodiness, don’t you think? I imagine this moody woman smashing a lightbulb!)

In the last post, we discussed some of the reasons for moodiness, and saw that there were many various causes ~ some physical, some emotional or mental, and some spiritual.

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a moody person is “subject to depression, gloomy; subject to moods, temperamental; or expressive of a mood.” That’s a pretty wide spectrum. Some people don’t like their own moodiness, and others with physical problems struggle with moods; but some say, “That’s just the way I am,” leaving others to deal with them. And heaven help us when we deal with teenagers’ fluctuating moods!

So, how do you respond biblically to a person who is moody?

(1) Give them lots of love and grace. Many times when a person is moody, they are not likely “themselves,” so don’t take what they say too seriously when moodiness makes them lash out. Keep your distance for a while, if the moodiness includes anger. Offer consolation, but not in the heat of the moment. Give the person time to calm down a bit, and then, with compassion, try to get them to open up. Listen, and don’t offer advice at this point unless asked. Be tender and selfless. Do not judge them. Think of many of the “one another” scriptures ~ so many of them will help you respond correctly.

(2) Guard your own heart (Proverbs 4:23). While you can be empathetic, don’t allow your own mood to mimic theirs.  Ask the Holy Spirit to give you a spirit of kindness and  inner joy, and practice self-control. On page 149 of Fantastic After 40, Pam recommends remembering the acrostic C-A-L-M to Continue reading

More than a ‘Mood Ring’

21 Mar

Holding a Mood RingOur friend Holly Ryerson Hansen has the most amazing daughter, Angela. (We wrote about Angela in LOL with God. We like the way her daughter thinks!) Here’s another example:

Angela: “Grrr …  Arrrgh … Grrr!”

Holly: “What’s wrong, Sweetie?”

Angela: “Oh nothing. I just have this mood ring, and I’m trying to see if it works when I get mad.”

LOL!

I (Dawn) can’t believe that mood rings are back in vogue. My granddaughter wears one!

This 1970s fad came out around the same time as the Pet Rock. Invented by New Yorker Joshua Reynolds when he was 33,  Reynolds was a wiz at marketing. (He went on to invent the ThighMaster!) According to a 70s-info site, a mood ring contains a heat-sensitive liquid crystal encased in quartz. as the body temperature of the owner changes, the crystals change colors … said to correspond to the wearer’s mood at the time.

An instruction book that came with the original Mood Ring explained what each color meant. People have different concepts of what the colors mean. Here’s what this 70s website remembers them meaning (and I have put others’ thoughts in brackets):

  • Golden Yellow means the wearer is tense, has difficulty focusing, and is easily bothered.
  • Blue indicates happiness [calm, relaxed]
  • Purple means moodiness or erratic emotions. [passionate]
  • Black is a real downer … the wearer might be overburdened or confused [stressed]
  • Reddish Brown is the sign of insecurity. [fearful]
  • Green means the person is easily amused. [romantic]

We joke about the Mood Ring, but “moodiness” is no joke! Some people have a greater tendency toward moodiness, and it’s not just a women’s problem ~ the result of crazy hormones. Some women do indeed get moody before their “time of the month.” But although hormones might contribute to moodiness in some people, much moodiness has nothing to do with hormones at all.

If you can, try to understand the triggers Continue reading

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