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In Praise of Godly Grandmas

23 Jun

Note: This post is just for Grandmas, but  others may enjoy it, too.

Grandkids Kissing GrandmaSpeaker and writer Vonda Skelton wrote about one of her grandmothering experiences:

A few years ago, my granddaughter Ellie and I were passing the time on a family trip by playing one of our favorite road games, “I Spy.” It was Ellie’s turn, and she had me searching high and low for something purple, our favorite color.

It wasn’t on the beach towel, the flower on her shirt, or her purple nail polish. I had a good view of the entire van from my back seat location, but it wasn’t helping. What else could it possibly be?

“You’ll never guess this one,” the seven-year-old announced. That was all I needed to hear. Zooming down the highway at 70 miles per hour, my competitive streak went into overdrive. But there was nothing purple left in the car.

Hispanic Grandma“Are you sure you mean purple?” I asked, eying her sister Christiana and the sweater she wore ~ “Could it be pink?”

“No, Nana, it’s purple. I promise.” She crossed her arms. You might as well give up. You’ll never guess.”

Five minutes later, I gave up. “OK, what is it?” She pointed. I leaned over and scanned the floorboard. “There’s nothing purple down there.”

“Not there. There,” she said, pointing again. I followed her pointing … My spider-veined leg.

Purple is no longer my favorite color. *

This story is from a book by Sharon Hoffman called A Car Seat in My Asian Grandma & GranddaughterConvertible? *, an insightful book for any grandmother (Nana, Grammy, Me-Maw or whatever she’s called) who wants to be a godly influence in her grandchildren’s lives.

Can you sing the praises of a godly grandmother, or a grandma who loved you unconditionally? I (Dawn) know that some cannot, and that is a true shame ~ representing hurts and lost opportunities. (But I know of many who have “recovered” from insensitive or selfish grandparents, and learned how to properly love their own grandchildren.)

I have nothing but praise for my two godly, loving grandmothers. I know beyond any doubt that they both prayed for me, and they also passed along an authentic spiritual heritage.

Reading Hoffman’s book encouraged and inspired me.  She suggested so many fun ways to be involved. But fun times aren’t the only way to connect with grandchildren. (Pam endorsed the book, saying, “My sippicup is overflowing from all the wisdom, practical ideas, real-life stories, and illustrations!”)

One of my favorite parts of the book Continue reading

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Moms Know Best

8 May

Ham in a PanA young wife was in the kitchen cooking her first Easter meal.  Before placing the ham in a large roasting pan, she cut off an ample section from one of the ends.

“Why did you do that?” her husband asked.

“Well, I really don’t know why but that’s the way my mother did it.”

Determined to get an answer for her husband, the young wife called her mother who said, “That’s the way my mother did it.”

A call to Grandma revealed the answer. “My dear, the reason I cut the end off of the ham was because I didn’t have a pan big enough to hold it.” 

That has always been a favorite story of mine, and it’s often used to illustrate why we shouldn’t use unfounded traditions of the past.   But now, as a mom of three young boys, I’m starting to see the great importance of building meaningful traditions.

My own mother was a pro at creating meaningful traditions!  The evening meal, where our family sat together at the dinner table, was a tradition in our home.  Mom worked hard to make each mealtime a ministry.

Whether it was a Texas-themed table setting to celebrate our roots on “Alamo Day,” green milk on St. Patrick’s day, heart-shaped meatloaf and mashed potatoes for Valentine’s Day, or just the calm assurance that at the end of the school day I knew our family would stop everything to sit down and eat together… mealtime was a good time for me.  It was a time I listened to my dad’s prayers, laughed and shared, learned life’s lessons, and felt heard and loved and cared for.

These are the times I know helped shape my godly understanding, build strength of character, and bind  our family tightly together like no other time. Before we left the table, we participated in a short devotional time that I now realize was specifically child-centered. Mom took cooking and serving from being routine chores to being an avenue for ministry through her planning, preparation, presentation, and prayers.  Every time she served us, she was also serving the Lord (Col. 3:23).

I haven’t quite mastered the art of preparing the gourmet meals each evening as my mother did, but I haven’t lost the concepts she showed me … creating time each day to show my family a deep love not only by meeting a need of satisfying a physical hunger for food, but creating time to show love, care, understanding, and talking about God’s truth.  Whether it’s picking a dinner that my child knows was made especially because it is his favorite, or everyone sharing a favorite memory for each piece of pizza they eat, I hope my children will feel the same sense of security of family that those times created for me.

So, on this Mother’s Day, I’d like to thank my mom for helping me to see the importance of making mealtime a ministry.  I raise my glass of green milk to you!

DeedraDeedra Scherm has been married for 14 years to Kris and Mom to David (6), Keifer (4), and Charlie (21 months.)

Deedra is an author, producer, inventor, and President and CEO of Lemon Vision Productions (www.lemonvision.com) a company that creates inspired media for kids.  Deedra loves fun games, great food, and fantastic movies, but her most cherished times are those surrounded by family.

Tough Mom Love

6 May

What did your mom teach you?

My Mother taught me about ANTICIPATION… “Just wait until your father gets home.”

My Mother taught me LOGIC... “If you fall out off that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”

My Mother taught me HUMOR… “When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.”

My mother taught me RELIGION. “You better pray that will come out of the carpet.”

My Mother taught me about JUSTICE… Some day you will have kids . . .

Being a mom is a blessed calling—and sometimes a tough one. Often we moms function on too Stressed Mommylittle sleep and too little in the checkbook. When a mom is under stress, she can sometimes look for ways to escape or numb the stress or pain: TV reality shows, drinking, pain killing medication, too much comfort food,  or we allow the stress to build until it erupts in anger onto our family. None of those options help lower stress, rather, they erode a mother’s life and will actually raise the stress and pain.

Good news!  God has a plan to help us moms out.  He can make us tougher than life and  stronger than whatever our kids might drag in the door (snake, bug or worse ~ a teenage bad attitude!)

Check out a few of the many promises God gives:

  • Nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37)
  • But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. (1 Cor 15:57)
  • I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Phil 4:13)
  • The LORD your God in your midst, The Mighty One, will save . . .  (Zeph 3:17)

This summer, we are running an LOL with God book club so you can have a SONsational summer. Women from all around the world are buying and committing to read the LOL with God devotional from Memorial Day to Labor Day. Click here to order LOL with God devotional or to learn more details so you and your friends can join us. (Sign up for free “Splash of Hope” ~  daily, quick,  and fun encouragements and ideas to help you LOL all summer.)

As a reminder that being a mom might be tough, but God can help us become tougher than life, here is a humorous video called “Tha Muthahood” from Anita Renfroe (who is a regular comedian for both Women of Faith and Good Morning America). Her parody is not a theological statement, rather some comic relief on our road to becoming “One Tough Mother” (a book by Pam’s friend, Julie Barnhill).

Note from Dawn:  Leave a comment about how your mom showed you tough love, and I will randomly pick one person to receive a copy of  One Tough Mother.

Remember, our kids might be strong willed, but our God is stronger! 

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